Is it Business or is it Personal?

denise-croppedSo God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.  – Genesis 1:27 (NIV)

One of John’s and my favorite stories is the premise behind the movie “You’ve Got Mail.” The protagonists become attracted based on authentic conversation and experiences. Some of common experiences pit them against each other. But with good humor and mutual respect, they work through their trials. In the end they find out that they are a good match as a couple.

untitledThe movie also unravels well the mystery between God’s deliberate design of the two genders. God’s Word is the Alpha and Omega on male/female relationships, yet He also offers His wisdom through the works of those who study the mystery of the two genders scientifically, sociologically, psychologically, spiritually and so on.

This 28-second exchange outlines the basic instincts each gender brings to the table.

My simple observation at this point in life is that God designed men to enjoy “the game,” and focus on work in an impersonal way as to get things done. Women, on the other hand feel that human connection is “the game,” and in order to get things done, no one should ever get hurt. Both views are needed, and one done at the expense of the other reaps hurtful consequences in the least.

images0298FAHP“You’ve Got Mail” is loosely based on Jane Austen’s novel, “Pride and Prejudice.” What Austen captures in her vernacular and cultural observation is distilled for us two hundred years forward, and yet the values are still the same. Pride brings with it a prejudice, and prejudice brings with it a pride. When both character flaws are submitted properly to God’s principals of education through conversation, study and application, the ignorance that comes from pride and prejudice morphs itself into love and productivity.



In the end we have a good love story, and reaffirmation that men and women are designed by God deliberately for the purposes of work, companionship and giving life to more human beings that society might move forward.




When men and women come together devoid of pride and prejudice in the name of Jesus, so much more can be done. This is not a suggestion about women’s roles in church organization as I am woefully ill-equipped to distill the subject at this point. But one thing is for sure, God created both men and women in his image. He needs the male and female mind to engage in conversation, ideas and prayer together so that in the end, our physical and spiritual communities of society and church, ideologies and projects can be done to the glory of God.

There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus. – Galatians 3:28 (NIV)


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